Who is this work for?
This work is for people who are self-aware, growth-oriented, and tired of repeating the same emotional and relational patterns.
You may be in the right place if:
- You keep attracting emotionally unavailable or misaligned partners
- You’ve done therapy or personal development but still feel blocked in intimacy
- You struggle to feel safe being fully seen, expressed, or vulnerable
- Desire, closeness, or trust feels complicated rather than nourishing
- You want relationships that feel secure and alive
This work isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about building the internal safety required for love to deepen.
What makes this work different?
My work focuses on capacity.
Capacity is your ability to stay connected to yourself, especially when emotion, desire, vulnerability, or uncertainty arise.
Most blocks to intimacy don’t come from a lack of effort or communication skills.
They come from early relational experiences and lived emotional history.
From heartbreak, disappointment, betrayal, or self-abandonment.
From unhealed relationships with primary caregivers or early attachment figures.
From moments where closeness wasn’t met, needs weren’t held, or love felt conditional or inconsistent.
Over time, we develop coping strategies to stay safe, ways of protecting ourselves, self-soothing, distancing, controlling, pleasing, or shutting down.
These patterns once helped you survive.
But now, they may show up as:
- pulling away when things start to feel close
- over-giving or losing yourself to stay connected
- difficulty trusting or relaxing in intimacy
- fear of being seen, chosen, or depended on
- cycles of longing followed by withdrawal or self-protection
This work is different because we don’t just talk about patterns.
We work with the body, energy, and nervous system where those patterns actually live.
In this work, you learn how to…
- stay present with emotion instead of collapsing, hardening, dissociating, or pushing it away
- open to intimacy without losing yourself or shutting down
- remain grounded and self-connected while relating to others
- feel desire, closeness, fear, or vulnerability without acting them out or avoiding them
- recognize and soften coping strategies that once protected you but now block connection
- choose from clarity rather than chemistry, urgency, or fear
This is where somatic energy healing and practical embodiment tools come in.
Rather than rehearsing better strategies, we build the internal safety required to experience intimacy differently, in real time, in your body, and in relationship.
When capacity changes, intimacy changes.
And when intimacy changes, relationships follow.
That’s why this work is somatic, relational, and embodied.
We don’t just understand patterns , we create new experiences of safety, connection, and choice.
The capacity for love
While every session is bespoke, my work follows a clear methodology I call
The Capacity for Love.
This framework supports deep, sustainable change without forcing a timeline or outcome.
We move at the pace your nervous system — and your relationships — can genuinely integrate.
The work unfolds through five interwoven phases.
1. Awareness & Orientation
We begin by gently identifying the emotional and relational patterns that keep repeating — without judgment or self-blame.
This includes attachment dynamics, coping strategies, and the ways intimacy may have felt unsafe, unstable, or inconsistent in the past.
2. Internal Safety
We build your capacity to stay present with emotion, desire, and vulnerability.
Here, your system learns that closeness doesn’t require collapse, control, or self-abandonment.
3. Somatic Repatterning
Using somatic energy healing and practical embodiment tools, we work directly with the body — where intimacy patterns are held.
This creates new, lived experiences of trust, regulation, and connection.
4. Discernment & Boundaries
As safety increases, clarity follows.
You learn how to choose partners, dynamics, and responses from self-trust rather than chemistry, urgency, or fear.
5. Integration in Relationship
The work is lived — not just understood.
Together, we support you in applying what you’re learning in real relationships, whether you’re dating, partnered, or navigating long-term intimacy.
This is how intimacy becomes steadier, safer, and more alive from the inside out.
Building the capacity to let love rise within us.
WAYS TO WORK WITH ME
1:1 Somatic Support
Private sessions are deeply personalized and responsive to your lived experience.
Rather than applying a one-size-fits-all approach, we work with what’s present — in your body, your relationships, and your inner world.
1:1 work is supportive if you’re:
- navigating patterns in dating or partnership
- healing after heartbreak, betrayal, or relational trauma
- learning to stay connected to yourself in intimacy
- rebuilding trust, self-worth, or emotional availability
- wanting relationships that feel secure and alive
Sessions integrate somatic energy healing, embodiment practices, and relational inquiry to support lasting change — not just insight.
Couples Work
Couples work supports partners in building emotional safety, clarity, and deeper connection, without blame. It’s an invitation to deepen intimacy, reignite desire, and evolve together, not to fix what’s broken.
This work supports partners in cultivating emotional safety and erotic aliveness, while learning how to stay authentic, connected, and playful as the relationship grows and changes.
Rather than focusing on problems or pathology, we work with:
- desire and attraction
- authentic communication of fears and needs
- clear boundaries and self-responsibility
- intention-setting for the relationship’s evolution
- creating space for play, curiosity, and pleasure
This is Tantric, relational work that helps couples stay connected to themselves and each other, without projection, pressure, or expectation.
Couples work may support you if…
- you want to reignite passion, intimacy, or playfulness
- desire feels present but hard to access or express
- you want to communicate more honestly without creating pressure or defensiveness
- you’re learning how to ask for what you need while respecting your partner’s pace
- you want tools to support the long-term vitality of your relationship
- you’re committed to growing together rather than growing apart
This work helps couples understand themselves more deeply in relationship — how they love, how they desire, how they protect, and how they open.
The intention isn’t to change one another.
It’s to create the conditions where love, trust, and desire can keep unfolding, with respect, consent, and mutual care.
I don’t teach this work from theory.
My approach is shaped by lived experience, by learning how to move from intellectual understanding into embodied safety, self-trust, and discernment in love.
This work is about coming home to yourself.
So love no longer requires urgency, performance, or self-abandonment.
Ready to build the capacity for deeper love and intimacy?
Private sessions available worldwide. Based in Toronto. Sessions by application.
Jaime Verk 